This is Craig and I about 6 or 7 years ago.
We look so young and in love!
I don't mean to imply that we're not in love now. We definitely are, but it's just different now. It's easy to keep things exciting and fun when you're young and dating. But, once you're married for awhile and even more so when you have a kid, it's easy to fall into a comfortable routine and get a little lazy.
But, sometimes all it takes is a little spontaneity to shake things up and make it fun again...
Last night Craig was taking a drive to Salem to pick up a car so Fern and I tagged along. It was last minute and the drive home would probably be during Fern's bed time, so I had her all ready in PJs in case she fell asleep.
Long story short, the car ended up being a bit of a disaster and kept overheating on the drive home. It's not exactly a quick drive from where we were, so stopping ever couple of exits to give the overheating car a break was slow going. Fern was asleep in her car seat, but Craig felt bad for keeping us both out late.
At this point I could've been a jerk and gotten mad and snappy about the situation we were in, but instead I tried to reframe it. Even though this wasn't an ideal scenario, I told Craig it was actually kind of fun, because it was a spontaneous adventure and made me feel young and free again, like when we were first married and I'd tag along on little adventures with him. That may sound a little weird, because how could being stuck with a broken down car be fun, but it was more the fact that I hadn't been out that late on a weeknight in ages, and even if it wasn't a great situation, there's something about going through little things like that together that is bonding. So, we sat in the car together, every couple of exits, while Fern slept and we watched "Breaking Bad" on Craig's phone and talked about life. It really was a nice time, aside from the whole broken car thing.
All that said, it reminded me that it's good to change things up in a marriage.
Hopefully next time our spontaneity will be for something more exciting than a broke down car, but either way, I'm just happy I get to do life with such a wonderful man.
Hope you all have a great day today!